What do YOU think? Would you stop menstruating indefinitely - for years, maybe?
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Your comments, below. Read older ones dating to 2000 at the link at the bottom of this page. Add yours! (I count 1008 on these all pages dating to 2000.)

The New York Times quoted from your e-mail below for an article on menstrual suppression in the 14 October 2003 edition, Science Times section (online here).

"[Menstruation] doesn't put me in touch with the earth or my femininity any more than my snot or shit does."

I am 38 year old New Zealander with two children. During pregnancy and breastfeeding I had a marvelous four years off (apart from one light period between weaning and falling pregnant again). I can't see the point of menstruating any longer. It doesn't put me in touch with the earth or my femininity any more than my snot or shit does.

I use a cup and washable pads because its cheaper and doesn't generate rubbish, not because I enjoy handling bodily fluids - I used cloth nappies for my sons but I don't have a particular affinity with baby shit either.

If worshipping the moon makes women accept their periods more, then more power to them; but I think menstruation, like painful and life-threatening childbirth, is an artifact of evolution that we can moderate, but are unfortunately stuck with.

January 2010


"I love menstruating."

I am 24 years old. I love menstruating. My cycle is a beautiful reminder to remember what it means to be Woman. I feel more empowered than ever now that I am learning more about my cycle and fertility. I used to get angry about being in a female body and thought periods were a pain. Even if it still hurts a little, now I am giving my cycles attention and I'm feeling even more in tune with my body, the Earth, the Moon, and really the essence of being Human. As a Woman I am grateful for this gift, it is so healing to give my body Love, and accepting this into my life is one of the most wonderful things I've ever done for myself.

December 2009


"Please try to accept that some people really do have lighter, shorter, painless menstruation and some people really do have terrible pain and heavy bleeding."

I'm kind of surprised by the number of people who are viciously vocal on this page in either direction. Personally, I think there are better options for dealing with menstruation that make it far less annoying or painful. When I was using an internal silicon cup I hardly even knew I was having my period and I only had to clean it in the comfort of my home twice a day. Lately I've been using reusable cloth pads, which I find way more comfortable than commercial ones. I used to have terrible yeast infections and really bad cramps and sensitivity. I still have nasty mid-cycle pains from PCOS that blow menstrual cramps out of the water.

I know that some people have a worse (or better) time than I do, but our voices are equally valid. You don't need to hate yourself or others because your experiences differ. Please try to accept that some people really do have lighter, shorter, painless menstruation and some people really do have terrible pain and heavy bleeding. For goodness sake, don't ridicule people because they're different. Everyone has different genes, different reactions to different products, and different lifestyles.

I do think that people who are suffering might want to try making changes to their lives to improve the conditions they're facing, but I don't see any need to be self-righteous. Nothing works the same for everyone. I hope people will research and try other options before chemically or surgically stopping their menstruation, but it's their right to chose what they want to do with their bodies. They're "real" women regardless of their choice and regardless of their fertility. It's silly to suggest that someone isn't a woman just because her view of womanhood differs from yours.

I am saddened by how much people's body image and their image of their femininity appears to be tied to negative views of menstruation and their genitalia. No, you may not have been meant to menstruate as often as modern women do, but it is still a natural process and not something you need to be ashamed of. It doesn't make you filthy or unclean or disgusting any more than sweating does. I'm not saying it's loads of joyous fun, I don't love sweating either, but needing to clean yourself doesn't mean that there is something wrong with _you_.

December 2009



"Hell yes!"

I was diagnosed with a rare bleeding disorder in 2007, and ever since then I have been burdened with horrendous periods. Not only is the flow profuse, but the clots that come out are sickening, and the abdominal pain that follows is disabling. I would not wish this monthly curse on my worst enemy.

It's bad enough, I frequently miss work because of it.

I have recently met with my doctor, and am in the process of scheduling endometrial ablation to help with this problem.

So, when you ask me if I would stop menstruation if I could, my answer is

Hell Yes!

xxxx

November 2009


"I teach anthropology, and we talk a lot about the difference between sex (which is biological) and gender (which is cultural). I think it's perfectly possible to be female in both the sexual and gender senses WITHOUT the pain and mess of having a period."

Yes. At present, its sole function is reassuring me that I am not pregnant. I would happily trade the cost of buying pads and tampons (and, unfortunately, I need both) every month for the cost of buying a pregnancy test once a month. I would love to have the money back I've spent on diagnostic work for the sometimes paralyzing pain I have every month (not to mention the fainting!) only to be told "Well, this just happens to some women."

I teach anthropology, and we talk a lot about the difference between sex (which is biological) and gender (which is cultural). I think it's perfectly possible to be female in both the sexual and gender senses WITHOUT the pain and mess of having a period.

On another note, my mother reached menopause at 51. She rates it up there with getting her first job and marrying my dad as "the best thing that ever happened to her."

cheers,
xxxx

November 2009



"To sum it all up I'm never stopping my period again."

I stopped my period for 2 years and let me tell you, it was the worst thing i could have ever done to my body. I I was so depressed, crying all the time, irritable. The effects on my body were awful as well. I had headaches, My libido was gone, I had vaginal dryness, heart palpitations, acne and weight gain all month long. As least when I had my period all of my discomfort was temporary.

So I finally got fed up and had the Mirena removed a few months ago and I'm almost back to normal. Sure my periods are bad but I'm grateful to have it back after what I went through when it was gone. To sum it all up I'm never stopping my period again. It just did not agree with me. I messed with nature and my body pushed back. I'm never stopping my period again.

November 2009



"As a sewage treatment plant operator I know first hand the consequence of all the female products that get flushed into the receiving streams."

I have no time for those of you who write in with your "I hardly notice it" and "eat organic" comments. If fertility could remain intact there is no way any sane person would choose to go through this ordeal once a month. It is a poor set up. End of story.

Let us assume for a moment there was no such thing as menstruation and the body somehow dissolved the uterine lining or it would be absorbed by the body. Then let us say that we were told that once a month for 3 (give me a break you don't fool me) to 10 days you will bleed uncontrollably out of your vagina. We would be mortified. It would seem RIDICULOUS to us!

Having a period is horrible. It is limiting, expensive, painful, inconvenient and hard on the environment. As a sewage treatment plant operator I know first hand the consequence of all the female products that get flushed into the receiving streams. Our bar screens are littered with "shoots" as the boys call the tampon applicators, not to mention pads and wrappers that get flushed. These products break our equipment, clog pumps and dull the teeth of the grinders. Maintenance costs would be reduced by 36% (yes I figured it out) if these things were out of environment. As everyone knows, the products also make their way into the oceans and waterways, harming aquatic wildlife. I am 37 and have a uterus full of fibroids and have opted for a hysterectomy. People say I am crazy that I forfeit my right to have children. Well, I never thought I would grow up and be the person who didn't have kids, but I am certainly not going to define my life or my womanhood based on wether or not I brought a kid into this world. There are many ways to express motherhood and I am not going to go through my life regretting that I didn't push a child out of my vagina. It is so ridiculous some of the ideas society throws at us.

So, I am firing my uterus and never having a period again. I am an athlete and love to hike and camp-I can not wait. No more period for the rest of my life. Oh yeah-diva cups, luna cups and instead all leak too. Some people have better luck than others but to say they are fool proof is wrong. And NO I DO NOT put it in wrong. If after 2 years you still get leaks then there is something wrong with the product, not me.

October 2009


"I know I'm female and I don't need a monthly messy, painful inconvenience to remind me of the fact"

I've already commented but I feel I had to again after reading the entry from the woman who claimed women who wanted to stop their period "sickened" her and advised them to go get a sex change because they weren't "real women". If she likes getting her period then good for her, but she shouldn't be so harsh on those who don't. I know I'm female and I don't need a monthly messy, painful inconvenience to remind me of the fact, I can see that for myself when ever I get changed or go the bathroom!

September 2009


"I truly despise my uterus and would be more than happy to have it removed sooner rather than later, so that I waste less of my life having to deal with this inconvenience."

I would happily give up my period at the drop of a hat if I could find a way to do it that didn't have other risks for my body. I think it's ludicrious for me to deal with this mess when I'm not ever going to have children. I am 23 years old, and I got my period a few months before I turned 13. I have fairly easy periods (first day pain only, fairly light bleeding after the first two days) but all in all I consider it a waste of time and money, considering I have no use for it. I truly despise my uterus and would be more than happy to have it removed sooner rather than later, so that I waste less of my life having to deal with this inconvenience.

September 2009



"yes . . . but only naturally!"

yes i would like stop or lessen my period but only naturally!

I usually have 7 days. I am 31 and have been slowly changing my bad lifestyle habits that have been making me sick. (food, sleep, stress). I feel better when i am taking care of myself. I have learned to check things out before taking advice and not let anyone tell meÝhow wrong i am, that someone else knows me better.

I like the natural pad thing and would like to give that a try.

peace, love, starts from within.Ý

Texas

September 2009


"I would definitely stop my periods if I could."

And, look at this, turns out I actually can!

I'm 21 years old now and live in Belgium, I started menstruating when I was around 13. To be honest I've never had really bad periods, but I did suffer quite a bit from PMS. The week before my period started (usually very regularly by the way, 28 days exactly unless I was stressed) I had a lot of trouble with my lower back and especially my breasts! God, my breasts. Constantly felt like they were going to explode, not very useful in a country where virtually everything is done by bike... Sex was actually really difficult because every time my breasts 'got in the way' I almost had to cry because they were so tender.

Ok, these things weren't that much fun, but nothing really serious.

I've used the pill for years but was always rubbish at taking it at the right times, besides that I forgot it every now and then. After that I switched to a vaginal ring, which worked quite well but got a bit troublesome after a while. Neither really affected my periods, with or without it, they always came at the same time.

Last year however, I started using Implanon as a contraceptive. One of the side affects is a change in your menstrual cycle, but in around 20% of women their periods stop completely. I'm so happy I'm included in that 20%. I cannot believe how much EASIER my life is now! To be honest the first few months were really strange, I still had PMS symptoms but never started menstruating. I really felt like 'less of a woman', like I was handicapped in some way. But after a while I got used to it, and I dread the day that I'll have to deal with them monthly again... No more waking up in blood-soaked sheets, no more having to wear mostly black skirts in case you 'leak' when you're away, no more running to the bathroom every hour to check if everything is still ok down there, no more spending money on tampons and pads each month. And then I haven't even talked about the occasional smell, the constant paranoia that you're leaking or that everyone can somehow see it on you, having to cancel fun plans like an impromptu trip, camping, swimming etc. because 'it's that time of the month again'. What is there to miss? Of course, it's there for a reason, and giving birth is no doubt a wonderful thing, but why keep it if it's not necessary? If we can control it? Of course, I got lucky, but if the possibility existed for everyone, I really can't fathom why somebody would look forward to that grueling experience every month.

After my three-year Implanon cycle is over I'm definitely getting a new one, besides the fact that it's super safe as you can't make any mistakes using it, the side effect of ending my periods has honestly been heavenly.

Take care,

****
September 2009



"Would you stop menstruating if you could? Yes, immediately."

I absolutely ABHOR this feeling of 'incontinence.'

Not to mention the monthly pain and the costs.

YUCK

from Germany, 49 years old

September 2009


Yes. "I started at the age of 8."

I'm 36 years old and want to stop my menstruation. I don't know why I need it. Women younger then me can by taking shots or pills and they haven't had it as long as I have. I started at the age of 8. I've had my two children and they are about to move out. I had my tubes cut and burned over 16 years ago. I'm tired of bleeding for 14-21 days every month and passing blood clots going threw a pad and tampon every 20 to 30 minutes. So if I can find away to quit having my period I would.

****

September 2009


Yes. "Men don't have to have some horrible, painful routine in order to feel like men."

Hello,

I'd like to add my comments to your survey. I would definitely stop menstruation if I could. In fact, I found your website when I was doing a search on what options there are to do that.

I began the horrible thing when I was barely 11 years old, after starting to mature when I was barely 9. I feel as though I've missed out on my childhood because of having had a woman's body at such an absurdly young age. When I was a child, I used to pray to God every night to make it go away. When I was around the other kids at school, I always felt very awkward and out of place because of my over-developed body. One of the major reasons why I decided not to have any children was because I was afraid that a female child would inherit it. With the age of puberty getting younger, the child might have started puberty at an even younger age. I'm 38 now.

In response to some of the other comments, I noticed that one respondent eats only organic foods. That's really good, and I also eat organic as much as I can afford to, as organic food is normally more expensive. I've also noticed that a healthier diet reduces the severity of the thing.

Some of the respondents say they wouldn't get rid of it because it gives them the sense of being connected to the other women around the world. Why should suffering be part of being either sex? Men don't have to have some horrible, painful routine in order to feel like men. If menstruation is what makes one a woman, is being a woman really a gift, as some people say that it is?

Although there are ways of stopping menstruation, they're often very hard to access. Many doctors won't perform a hysterectomy on a woman who doesn't have children under the presumption that the woman will later change her mind and have a nervous breakdown because she can no longer get pregnant. This reasoning strikes me as absurd. On the one hand, the doctors find the woman too feeble-minded to make the long-term decision as to whether or not to have children. At the same time, the doctors think that this same feeble-minded woman would have the sanity to raise a child. It's interesting that doctors don't question a woman's ability to decide whether to have an abortion, and even teenage girls are trusted with the ability to decide this, although there are women who've regretted that decision.

There are also a number of medications which can delay early puberty by suppressing the hormones until the child becomes older. Despite the rising rate of early puberty, few people know about the existence of this treatment, and it's rarely used. Even when it is, it's generally only used if the child starts puberty before the age of seven. Is seven a reasonable age to start becoming an adult? If it is, should a seven-year-old get pregnant?

Some people use birth control pills to stop menstruation, but at the same time, there are risks with it, such as an increased risk of cancer. Also it's a prescription medication, and getting the prescription can be expensive for the many people who don't have health insurance. Also, health insurance doesn't cover hysterectomies that are performed solely to stop menstruation. It would be good if there was some way of stopping this which didn't involve a doctor's appointment, such as herbs, or if the existing medications against it were available over-the-counter.

You can print my name if you publish this on the website. [The general policy is I never print names in this section for many reasons.] I live in Germany, am originally from England, and lived in the US for some years. Thanks for letting me have my say.

Sincerely,

****

September 2009



"[T]he whole thing's nothing but a nuisance and an expense, with no redeeming features whatsoever."

I would happily have gone my entire life without any periods. I started when I was 16 and am now 48, and if my mother's history is anything to go by I still have another five or more years to go before menopause.

I've never had any kind of problems, pain, pre-menstrual tension, or anything like that. I don't have any kind of blood or period phobia. But the whole thing's nothing but a nuisance and an expense, with no redeeming features whatsoever. I have to buy pads (and they don't come cheap), carry a supply if travelling, dispose of them (not always easy away from home), and go without a bath for a week. How much money I've been obliged to spend on pads over the years I hate to think, and it's basically cash poured down the drain.

I can't understand anyone enjoying or welcoming anything about periods. My long-standing fantasy was always to have a hysterectomy and be rid of them once and for all.

You can show my name if you like.

****

(Grew up in USA, now living in UK)

September 2009



"I thank God that he gave women so many gifts"

I would never stop my menstrual. It sets us apart from men in a big empowering way. I thank God that he gave women so many gifts like being able to birth and hold children and then being able to feed them with milk when they arrive in the world and menstrualing helps this all transpire.

(15-year-old from Montclair, New Jersey, who also contributed Nosebleed pillow and The comma to Words and expressions about menstruation and who "wanted [her brothers] to die thinking I never had a period, which was ridiculous.")
August 2009


"Absolutely NOT."

Absolutely NOT. I am 23 years old and with a 4 year old son. Every since I had him my periods have been irregular. At first it was because of the depo shot after I had him, but I stopped after the second dose. I switched to the patch, then finally back to the pill. However, after I left my exhusband I stopped taking the pill when I was 21. Condoms became my main choice of birth control, oh and I barely even have had sex in the last 2 years. My period comes whenever it pleases. Sometimes I only get 4 to 6 a year. I get pains in my back that are so unbarable, I get angry, and I get bloated. However, I do not mind what comes with it. All because it might mean I can bare children again one day. Endometriosis is very common in the women in my family and one day when I decide to get remarried and have a stable relationship with the right person, then maybe I can have one more child.

People who say they would get rid of their periods sicken me. If you want so bad to get rid of them, go have a sex change, because you're NOT a real woman at all!

Regards,

****

Virginia [U.S.A.]

August 2009


"I HATED it!!!"

Oh yes.... I would have LOVED to have stopped it! It came when it felt like it... from 27 to 56 days...... I bled heavily for 9 days each time.... flooded through clothing, hot flushes... cramps so bad I wanted to die.... faintness in the street and anywhere else. There were times when I could hardly think straight due to pain and faintness. I HATED it!!! Then... I had firbroids... and it got worse! I eventually had a total hysterctomy .. which plunged me into a slightly early menopause so have to use hrt patches.. successfully ... but I feel so much better! Without the 9 day periods, and the two weeks prior to that swollen to the point of AGONY breasts that went with it!

****, UK

July 2009


"My answer is YES!"

I'm 24 years old from United Kingdom. I got my first period when I was 11 (I was at school at the time as well... urgh!). They've never been particularly heavy but I've always had painful periods. When I was younger every month on the first day I'd be so sore that I could barely move and I would feel feverish so would have to stay off school, luckily I grew out of that when I was 16, although I still get bad cramps. I've never had any desire to have children, so it annoys me when I get it every month as I'm going through all that discomfort for nothing. I can't take the pill due to high blood pressure (I inquired about it a few years ago for contraceptive purposes) so I can't even stop it that way. I can't wait until menopause, my mum went through hers at 47 so hopefully only another 23 years to go!

July 2009



"It seems like societal brainwashing to me that women should bleed."

Yes I have chosen to stop by continuously taking the pill and not the placebo week. I did this before the new pills came out that allow you to do it. I can't understand why anyone would choose to suffer if they don't have to. It seems like societal brainwashing to me that women should bleed. If you are on the pill anyway, the bleeding is not a real menstrual cycle. It is hormone withdrawal bleeding. The developers of the original pill built the placebo week into the pill packets so that it would mimic women's natural cycles and it would be more easily accepted. It is an illusion so doctors don't have to explain how it works. Some doctors today still don't understand how the pill works.

June 2009



"The short answer to the question 'Would you stop menstruating if you could?' would have to be a resounding 'no' for me."

My periods have always been irregular, the first occurring when I was twelve, the next when I was fifteen. Even though my first period ruined a ski trip with my father, and the second my hopes of joining the wrestling team, I still wouldn't trade them. My family has a history of a large variety of horrible problems with their reproductive systems, and even though I have no desire for children of my own, it's a comfort to know that I might one day be able to carry a child.

I'm not even one of those women who has easy breezy periods: I get migraines, I bleed for at least a week, I get paranoid and snap at everyone. Even so, I do feel a connection to women across the world, and it's one of the rare times that I feel most like a woman. That in and of itself is amusing, because I don't always identify as female - not having periods at all would make it much easier to be fully androgynous, and yet I still wouldn't trade them in.

May 2009



"But when I look down and see the strawberry stain in my panties every month, a little of the euphoria from the first time still gets me."

At fourteen, I've only experienced 18 periods so far, but I can honestly say I do appreciate them. It makes me so happy to think of the connection I have with virtually every woman in the world. I will admit, they can be such a pain; and the breakouts, moodiness, bloating, and cramps associated with menstruation are very irritating at times. But when I look down and see the strawberry stain in my panties every month, a little of the euphoria from the first time still gets me. I can't help but marvel at my body and the wonderful things it can do. I view my period as a beautiful thing, it's a monthly reminder of my propulsion into womanhood and maturity.

May 2009


"From the bottom of my heart: I HATE MENSTRUATION!"

Since my traumatic first time until now, i have felt that menstruation is the evilst curse in Earth. I can't wish anybody the pain, the nasty odor and all the other "inconvenients" better called punishments associated with this filthy thing. I wonder why? why? Why?

April 2009


"I HAVE WONDERFUL PERIODS NOW! No pain, 4 days: one moderate, 1 light, 2 drainage. My periods actually make me feel happier."

What do YOU think? Would you stop menstruating indefinitely - for years, maybe?

Of course not! I love my period & I look forward to it every month.

I used to have horrible painful periods. I had my first menses when I was 10 or 11 years old. I hated my breasts, cramps, and awkward teenage appearance. I ate terrible fast food and RBGH milk at the time. I know the chemicals and hormones in food and environment caused the majority of my problems.

I have since changed my diet to all natural organic. I only buy milk from cows NOT treated with RBGH and stopped eating cheap beef and genetically engineered food.

Let me tell you what.. I HAVE WONDERFUL PERIODS NOW! No pain, 4 days: one moderate, 1 light, 2 drainage. My periods actually make me feel happier. I get increased blood flow to my nether regions (hehe) which at least put me in a good mood when I'm just sitting there. I also get excited right before it starts. I also get "spiritual" around my period. My sense of smell doubles and I gain an incredible sense for what people around me are feeling. Trust me, I had 10 years of period hatin' before I am now proud of everything woman.

Stop buying those horrible dioxin laced disposables! I bought a bunch of homemade cloth pads from women. They are thinner, discreet, block odor, store & wash easily, PLUS they are super comfy. The fleece is warm in the winter and cotton is breathable in the summer. The best thing is that there is no smell like with the disposables because the cloth absorbs it all. They seem to wick the blood right off. I have leaked through TONS of disposables, but I have been using cloth pads for a year WITHOUT ONE LEAK!!! Ebay has a bunch of these for a great price and you can ask the sellers to custom make them for you. Most of them fold up into cute envelope shapes and snap closed- for transportation (so you can easily stash them in your purse before & after using without a mess).

Cloth pads are also really easy to clean. Just toss them in a small hamper after using (don't soak/ don't prewash). They can sit like this for a few days. The morning before you do laundry toss them in the washer with water and oxo-brite (or any oxygen cleaner) and let them sit. After work (or several hours later) throw the rest of your clothes in and do laundry as usual. By this time, the oxygen cleaner will have eaten away the blood and it will NOT get on your other clothing. Wash and dry as usual. There is usually a tiny bit of staining on the pads, but they come out completely clean and surprisingly bright, ready to use again.

I went from being a period hater to a period lover! It is hard to be an all natural woman, but after the sacrifice my life is so much more fulfilling. The difference in my mind and body is almost unbelievable since I stopped eating foods made with pesticides, toxins, and hormones. My period has also become much more enjoyable since switching to cloth.

April 2009


Yes! to the question. "God, the Creator, the Great Spirit, who for me is revealed in Jesus Christ through the power of the Holy Spirit, does not want me to suffer and certainly is not the cause of my bodily imbalances, any more than God desires anyone to suffer at all."

After 37 1/2 years of periods since the age of 12, three children, a tubal ligation and longer periods after my 3d child at age 35 my answer is "Yes!" I've had problems with flooding for the last several years and passing large clots for the last year. Time off from work, ruined sheets, can't go anywhere for more than an hour for two-three days unless double padded with a tampon or two super tampons with one pad, fatigued and anemic. I am finally doing something about it-endometrial ablation scheduled three weeks from now. This is scheduled for 6 weeks before my 50th birthday. I have completed childbearing, with two teenagers and one 21 year old adult child and I do not need this. My God, I know I am a woman for heaven's sake with or without it. I've been praying and meditating at home during my periods contemplating my womanhood long enough to feel at a deep spiritual level that God is perfectly fine with my decision if I choose not to suffer with this any longer. Whether or not I suffer through this any longer is my choice. God, the Creator, the Great Spirit, who for me is revealed in Jesus Christ through the power of the Holy Spirit, does not want me to suffer and certainly is not the cause of my bodily imbalances, any more than God desires anyone to suffer at all.

It is natural for a woman's period to end and mine are certainly clinically abnormal enough to end a few years early. So, that's my decision for me.

April 2009


"I wish I could fire it [her uterus]!!!"

Hell yes!!! I am 45 with 4 kids.....had my tubes tied and have absolutely no use for the monthly mess any further.

I really don't understand how anyone call call it beautiful....every month I spend six days feeling bloated, getting blood on my fingers, feeling tied to the bathroom, can't go quadding in the bush etc....just because it's a pain, and an interference in my otherwise great life.

My uterus has served it's purpose....it is now wasting it's time getting prepared for a baby....I will never have another....I am done....I wish I could fire it!!!

Can't wait for menopause.

March 2009


"Definitely Stop My Period"

The main reason for this is, I HAVE HAD ENOUGH.

I'm a lesbian, and there is no reason for me to keep having mensuration just to maintain my fertility.

As a native Chinese, period/mensuration is something we would not talk about openly, and my tragedy is that I had my first period when I was 8, and ever since, I have been living with this monthly torture. I used to be quite active, but ever since my first period, I can't go to swim whenever I was like my brother, I can't do anything active in school.

I remember one time, when I was still around 8-9 years old, I was home with my grandma, and I have to change my mensuration pads, I was to young to maneuver the thing in my hands that I drop it into the toilet. And end up having to ask my grandma to help........

My period bring me so much bad memories.......and recently, I found out that I'm having disorder relating to my period. My period just became heavier, and the cramps became more painful....

I just don't what it anymore, if I can stop it now, I would definitely stop it with no regret.

March 2009


"tokophobia"

Hi Harry,

I have a message to the girl who added the latest comment [next page] to your opinion page.

Honey, you're not alone with this! Just google the word 'tokophobia' and you'll see.

(I'm not sure if tokophobia is discussed on MUM but I think it's an important new aspect of women's health).

Thanks and all the best,

February 2009


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